{"id":3788,"date":"2019-10-18T12:49:42","date_gmt":"2019-10-18T18:49:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/pumpkinvinefarms.com\/?p=3788"},"modified":"2019-10-20T12:51:00","modified_gmt":"2019-10-20T18:51:00","slug":"children-and-horses-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/pumpkinvinefarms.com\/?p=3788","title":{"rendered":"Children  and Horses, 2"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>If training horses is like raising children&#8230;<br \/>\nYes, children who are told no and yelled at often can be just as rotten as those who are raised in a more positive manner. Or worse <span class=\"_47e3 _5mfr\" title=\"wink emoticon\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"img\" role=\"presentation\" src=\"https:\/\/static.xx.fbcdn.net\/images\/emoji.php\/v9\/tb0\/1.5\/16\/1f609.png?_nc_eui2=AeGUry5pG-HdQI1UHykrKyB-YbmmGouDljuky7njOJNrgJWGMYz-aBvjX_Wg2GC1hUM7YtzbzfKGhNjpAMPwxDyWxwxQLhZ0tlBcRq93nI52Sw\" alt=\"\" width=\"16\" height=\"16\" \/><span class=\"_7oe\" aria-hidden=\"true\">\ud83d\ude09<\/span><\/span> (<a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/permalink.php?story_fbid=952096658481512&amp;id=309985332692651&amp;__xts__%5B0%5D=68.ARCd71TE76teBQhahx_em1SH423fVBPAiIP2v5jueKWNBjWSPSzFges3PDF4PahhlLapZUdwIxAS-2cwQDvmrVe-LB0vw3pq-ii1FFHqQRkK1h2A6fjk-G6W-twcxSWHy4iqi6xVmLjAnBm9I3eBmu0R-t_276hoX4Jk2d7ryRtuGwoXwnN-nUzMRmE3lFTuBmyCDZVFLAT57Mnc8ZD_P6Vwr4y8jJy0V9Jm8ZtRE8Yz-YSu7bK6zhKwbOr3EunZvdTdhUVjI6Bfk5FKi_VS-R41rIuWhTeEbg4KMBKjR7Ok8VzVoKvu8MewS06lcIw9l8gF4ZobT_W0zloMlTi8fl8&amp;__tn__=K-R\">https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/permalink.php?story_fbid=952096658481512&amp;id=309985332692651<\/a>) They can also be very well behaved though.<br \/>\nOne reason for that can be learned helplessness.<br \/>\nMany horses can act scared of nothing, they go about life unaware and uninterested in their surroundings, taking an<span class=\"text_exposed_show\">ything their rider has to offer without questioning. This is so often brought on by learned helplessness. They learn there is no escape, no point in fighting, they give up and pull deep into themselves, plowing through anything they are ask to, numb to the fear.<br \/>\nThis can happen with children too.<br \/>\nI was talking to a lady who was reminiscing that maybe they shouldn&#8217;t have been so hard on their oldest child. He had been spanked regularly for little things like accidentally spilling his milk glass at the dinner table.<br \/>\nI cried inside upon hearing that.<br \/>\nWere their children well behaved? Yes. As long as they were under the parents thumb and the learned helplessness was kept up.<br \/>\nLike horses once the learned helplessness is no longer maintained children can wake up, come out of it with all the resentment and pent up anger that being raised in such an oppressive environment will build. It can lead to rebellion against their parents as soon as they taste freedom, running wild and doing all the things their parents were trying to avoid with their overbearing behavior.<br \/>\nThere are abundant stories about horses is sold, from a trainer, who carefully maintains the learned helplessness, to a new owner who was searching for that dead broke, safe, dependable horse they thought they had found. Only for the horse to suddenly start bucking and spooking at everything.<br \/>\nQuiet and well behaved is not worth being forced into submission. Dependability and trust are better earned through other methods.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/pumpkinvinefarms.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/19\/2019\/10\/20180303_134454.jpg\" data-rel=\"lightbox-image-0\" data-rl_title=\"\" data-rl_caption=\"\" title=\"\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-medium wp-image-3789\" src=\"https:\/\/pumpkinvinefarms.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/19\/2019\/10\/20180303_134454-225x300.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"225\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/pumpkinvinefarms.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/19\/2019\/10\/20180303_134454-225x300.jpg 225w, https:\/\/pumpkinvinefarms.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/19\/2019\/10\/20180303_134454.jpg 450w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 225px) 100vw, 225px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>If training horses is like raising children&#8230; Yes, children who are told no and yelled at often can be just as rotten as those who are raised in a more&hellip; <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3788","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/pumpkinvinefarms.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3788","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/pumpkinvinefarms.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/pumpkinvinefarms.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/pumpkinvinefarms.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/pumpkinvinefarms.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=3788"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/pumpkinvinefarms.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3788\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3790,"href":"https:\/\/pumpkinvinefarms.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3788\/revisions\/3790"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/pumpkinvinefarms.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=3788"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/pumpkinvinefarms.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=3788"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/pumpkinvinefarms.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=3788"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}